Ep 9: 10 Ways to journal

On every episode of this show, I have encouraged you to take the topics and prompts to your journal. And maybe you glossed over that part, because you don’t keep a journal. Because keeping a journal seems a little bit too much 13-year-old girl to you. Or maybe because keeping a journal - STARTING a journal is way too overwhelming. Where does one start a journal? Especially as an adult. How do we do this? Is it lame? Is it private? Will I feel dumb?

It’s possible, of course, that a lot of you listening already do keep a journal, and if that’s the case, then I really really want to hear from you and how you do it. You don’t have to show me what your journal necessarily looks like, please definitely do not show me the words inside, but sharing the WAY that you journal - your process - THAT is helpful. Because there are a ton of different ways that a person might keep a journal and there is no RIGHT way. But if you do want to share the way that you keep a journal, please do tag the show @10ThingsToTellYou. 

A few things mentioned on this episode:

The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

Jess Lively and The Lively Show podcast

Day One journal app

Voxer app

Ep 8: Movie Director Jeff Tremaine has things to tell you

This episode is a little different because instead of asking YOU to answer a question I pose, I’m asking my guest the questions. There are so many fascinating people out there with things to tell, every few months or so I’m hoping to have a guest. And who else to start with than my talented husband Jeff Tremaine.

We’ve been married for 11 years and have packed a TON into that time, especially having our two young kids. And since I’ve been sharing on the internet for most of our marriage, I always get a lot of questions about our relationship and family, so we’re going to talk about some of that today.  

Jeff is a producer and a director and we met on the set of his first film in 2001. If you care to hear more about his early career trajectory, check out episode #8 of my podcast Smartest Person in the Room where we talk more about how he went from being the editor of Big Brother Skateboard magazine to creating the cultural phenomenon jackass, which started as a tv show and became a series of hit movies.

Jeff’s new movie on Netflix is called The Dirt, a biopic about Motley Crue based on this book.

A few of Jeff’s other tv/movie credits:

The Birth of Big Air

The Wild and Wonderful Whites of West Virginia

Angry Sky

Rob & Big

Ridiculousness

Wildboyz

Loiter Squad

#UpforWhatever Super Bowl ad

American Airlines Safety Video

Ep 6: Revisiting Judy Blume

This episode is a little bit of a different format. I’m with one of my oldest and dearest friends, Dr. Cara Pence, and we’re revisiting a childhood favorite: Judy Blume.

I have several ideas for a revisit series, where we look at some popular things from our past - books, movies, tv shows, et cetera - and talk about how they affected us and how we feel about them now. So this is the first in that series and we’re looking back at the formative era of pre-pubescent literature that is Judy Blume.

Specifically today we’re going to talk about three of Judy Blume’s novels:

Are You There, God? It’s Me, Margaret.

Blubber

Starring Sally J. Freedman as Herself.

I really want to hear what you guys think about these books or any of the Judy Blume books that had a big impact on you. I want to know if your kids are reading them, if you think these stories have held up over time.

Other things mentioned in this episode:

Beverly Clearly Ramona books

Banned book lists

Ep 5: Tell me about your teachers.

Today’s topic: Teachers!

Our ancestors, our enemies, our children, they are ALL our teachers. I can see that this topic might be something we revisit several times, from several different angles or categories, but today I want to talk about what probably came to mind FIRST: School teachers! 

Tell me about your most influential teachers.

Literal teachers. School teachers is what I’m mainly thinking here, but also coaches, dance instructors, not life’s metaphorical teachers (although I think we’ll get to that), but people who are actually paid to instruct you in something.  

Most of you listening have been out of school for a long time, but I’ll bet there are a few school teachers that come to mind anyway. These positions of authority in our most formative years tend to make a mark. I’ve long held several of my school teachers in such high esteem, and there are a few with whom I still hold a grudge, and when my own kids started elementary school a few years ago, it brought back a lot of nostalgia for me around teachers. Some fear and anxiety, truthfully, but also a respect for the teacher role that feels different to me now that I’m grown. I can’t wait to hear your memories of teachers that were important to you. 

A few things mentioned in this episode:

People are starting little 10 Things To Tell You groups!

If you would like to do this with your friends, a few apps that might facilitate:

Voxer (my favorite for keeping in touch with friends in different time zones)

Marco Polo (like sending video voicemails)

The original 10 Things To Tell You social media challenge

Dr. J. Rufus Fears still has classes available on The Great Courses

Ep 4: How do you connect to your body?

This episode is for you if you’ve ever felt disconnected from your own body.

This episode is NOT about weight or exercise. We’re talking about the mind/body connection and the spiritual awakening that can occur when you really tune into your body instead of living on autopilot.

I’m welcoming Pilates studio owner and movement teacher Kerri Campbell as my guest as we discuss and answer the question

How do you connect to your body?

Age, trauma, pain, and depression are just a few of the things that can cause us to disconnect from our body over time. In this episode we’ll talk about how to recognize if your brain and body have gone numb to one another and the mindset shift that will motivate positive change instead of constant self critique.

A few things mentioned in this episode:

Smartest Person in the room podcast episode about Pilates

Ep 3: Where do you live?

Today’s prompt:

Where do you live?

This is one of the most basic, get-to-know-you questions, and the answer can vary. Our country, state, city, and neighborhood all say something about us, whether we like it or not. 

On today's episode, we're not just talking about our zip codes, we're talking about how our location is currently affecting who we are. 

I live in Los Angeles, so I have 10 Things To Tell You about my little pocket of L.A. 

10 Things about this episode:

1. When we meet someone, we’re looking to put them into some sort of box of understanding, a lens to see them through. Sometimes answering where we live says something about our roots or our choices, our career, or our family history.

2. I have lived in Los Angeles for nearly 18 years. I grew up in small town Oklahoma. PLACE plays one of the biggest roles in my personal narrative. So I can talk about MY version of L.A., but I am also very aware that I live in a particular little bubble, and so everything I say here is from my experience only.

3. Vampire facials.

4. There are 12 million people in Los Angeles. The economy of this city alone is larger than 46 out of the 50 United States.

5. The Hollywood Sign originally said Hollywoodland.

6. Everclear’s song Santa Monica // Red Hot Chili Pepper’s Song Under the Bridge // Ryan Adams’s song La Cienega Just Smiled

7. Troop Beverly Hills (favorite LA movie of all time)

8. The Californians on Saturday Night Live.

9. L.A. has style. Lots and lots of style.

10. Los Angeles offered me all the freedom in the world when I needed it, and has offered it over and over again for the last 18 years. I believe LA lets you be whoever you want to be, and then also lets you return to yourself.

Ep 2: Are you lonely?

Loneliness feels like one of the great taboo topics of adulthood. But all around me, I see and hear people whispering that they’re profoundly lonely.

In this episode I’m going to tell you about a time in my life when I was really lonely, and the two things I did that turned it around for me. 

The prompt for this week:

Are you lonely?

Or 

When were you lonely?

Take your thoughts to your journal, to a friend, or to social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou.

10 Things from this episode:

1. Former Surgeon General Viveck Murthy calls loneliness an “epidemic.” You can feel lonely even when surrounded by people. 

2. I talked about loneliness on the Sorta Awesome podcast, where I used to be a co-host. Sadly, those episodes are no longer available in your podcast app, but you can listen to them on your desktop here and here.

3. Are you telling yourself a false narrative? Like no one possibly understands what you’re going through?

4. Are you bored in your life? 

5. A key to connection: Having a regularly scheduled thing to look forward to. (Like a book club!)

6. Are online connections real?

7. Putting something out there, online or in person, for others to connect to. It doesn’t have to be deep or private. It can be anything!

8. It’s about belonging. (See further reading: Brene Brown) It’s essential in relationship not only to feel loved, but to feel liked.

9. The formula I was looking for as I made new friends: local, enjoyable, and trustworthy. 

10. My husband is not my best friend. 

    BONUS: Reach out to someone this week. Someone that you suspect might be a little lonely and would appreciate hearing from you. Or maybe you’re the lonely one and making a connection with an old friend might feel nice. 

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10 Things To Tell You is now a podcast! Based on the #10ThingsToTellYou challenge I hosted on Instagram, I'm launching a short weekly podcast that will include a prompt and discussion about a topic I want YOU to take to your journal, text to your best friend, or post on social media. 

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