Ep 200: What is the ONE thing you would tell? (Celebrating 200 episodes with past guests of the show)

Ep 200: What is the ONE thing you would tell? (Celebrating 200 episodes with past guests of the show)

TWO HUNDRED EPISODES! It's a milestone worth celebrating. 

We're going back to the roots of the show and asking ourselves, What is the ONE thing you would tell? Not 10 Things. Not 3 things. But the most important message you would share with others if given a pen, a keyboard, or a microphone. 

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Ep 198: 10 Questions for the End of the Year

Ep 198: 10 Questions for the End of the Year

The 10 questions in this episode are meant to bring introspection (if you work through them alone) and connection (if you bring them up in conversation). Bring these to your journal, to your travel companions, to the holiday table, or just let them flow through your mind in these last few weeks of the year as we wind down 2023 and gear up for 2024. 

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Ep 197: Modern Manners for Teens

Ep 197: Modern Manners for Teens

My guest Brooke Romney believes that the only thing harder than parenting a modern teen is being a modern teen. In this episode, Brooke and I talk about a few of the rules that stuck out to me from her guide 52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens. This was a conversation I didn't even know I needed to have, and I loved it. 

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Ep 196: Symposium: Britney Spears's New Memoir

Ep 196: Symposium: Britney Spears's New Memoir

During our monthly Symposium meeting, the Secret Stuff community had smart, thoughtful, and compassionate takes on Britney Spears’s memoir itself and on Britney's place in music history and our pop culture lexicon.

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BONUS: 4 Rules For Sharing Your Story (Especially When It's Hard) with Carmen Rita Wong

BONUS: 4 Rules For Sharing Your Story (Especially When It's Hard) with Carmen Rita Wong

I love memoirs. I love hearing other people's stories in their own words. And, of course, I champion the idea to Share Your Stuff. 

But what if the story you need to tell is really difficult? What if it's hard to do justice to the truth while also protecting (or not protecting) other people? My guest for this conversation is author Carmen Rita Wong and she is sharing her own 4 rules to doing this well. 

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Ep 194: On Endings and Intuition (with Meg Tietz)

Ep 194: On Endings and Intuition (with Meg Tietz)

10 Things To Tell You exists because Meg Tietz put a microphone in my hand nearly a decade ago when she launched the Sorta Awesome podcast and asked me to be a regular cohost. That invitation changed my life, along with the thousands of Sorta Awesome listeners who have been touched by Meg's words and wisdom for all these years. 

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Ep 191: How BookTok and Gen Z Are Changing the Way We Read + Best Books Lately (with Alex Cash)

Ep 191: How BookTok and Gen Z Are Changing the Way We Read + Best Books Lately (with Alex Cash)

Where a 40-something aunt (me) chats with her 20-something niece (Alex) about what we're reading, where we get our book recommendations, and how the algorithm affects both of these things. 

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Ep 190: Whose voice lives rent-free in your head? (And how to mute them)

Ep 190: Whose voice lives rent-free in your head? (And how to mute them)

I thought when I turned 40 that I had turned a corner in my personal developement, that the shift into caring less about other people's opinions would also mean that my inner critic would pipe down. 

But here I am, a few years down the road, and the voices from my past live rent-free in my head and their chatter can affect my confidence and my choices. 

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Ep 188: Moms and the Mental Load (with Dr. Morgan Cutlip)

Ep 188: Moms and the Mental Load (with Dr. Morgan Cutlip)

Dr. Morgan and I talk about motherhood as an identity and the mental load of parenting that so often falls more heavily on women. We also discuss how that affects our mood, our partnerships and sex drive. I even share a real life example of this dynamic happening in my home right now.

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Ep 187: Book Bans: 5 Things A Librarian Wants You To Know

Ep 187: Book Bans: 5 Things A Librarian Wants You To Know

My life’s greatest passion is reading. Books are my lifeblood. And so you will not be surprised that I have been greatly alarmed by the rise of book bans in America in the last few years. The idea of banning books is so archaic to me, so outdated, so harmful, it’s as if we have learned NOTHING from history.

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Ep 186: College Roommates, Marriage Pacts, and Overdue Apologies (A Secret Tapes Conversation with my Soul Sister Lindsay Lawler)

Ep 186: College Roommates, Marriage Pacts, and Overdue Apologies (A Secret Tapes Conversation with my Soul Sister Lindsay Lawler)

In my book about friendship THE LIFE COUNCIL: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I write about my freshman college roommate and longtime LA roommate Lindsay Lawler. In the book, and in my life, Lindsay occupies the seat on my my life council that I call the SOUL SISTER. And in this conversation you’re going to see why. We have been connected spiritually and logistically and our lives have been intertwined since we were 18 years old.

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Ep 185: Analyzing the Results of the Listener Survey

Ep 185: Analyzing the Results of the Listener Survey

We're doing something a little different in this episode. I'm analyzing the results of this summer's podcast listener survey, where more than 1,000 people gave their feedback on 10 Things To Tell You. Listeners shared their favorite (and least favorite) episodes of the show, and suggested topics and guests for the future. 

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Ep 184: 8 Questions for the end of the summer

Ep 184: 8 Questions for the end of the summer

In this episode, I'm walking through 8 questions to ask yourself as we close one chapter of the year and enter into another. As usual, these questions work best when you share them with a friend, partner, coworker, or the whole family. They're also great for taking to your journal and sitting with your thoughts in this seasonal transition. 

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Ep 183: 5 Things I Wish I'd Known When I Was Learning To Cook (with Bri McKoy)

Ep 183: 5 Things I Wish I'd Known When I Was Learning To Cook (with Bri McKoy)

Bri McKoy is one of my favorite creators on the internet (and one of my favorite people, period). She's back on the podcast to talk about her new book The Cook's Book, which launches this month.  In this conversation, Bri McKoy shares 5 things she wish she'd known when she was learning how to cook. And I have to tell you, I've been cooking for 20 years and I loved hearing her talk about these things. 

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